A Dust Bunny and a Star

By Laurie Ness

God said to Abraham, "I will make your offspring like the dust of the earth, so that if anyone could count the dust, then your offspring could be counted." Genesis 13:16

God also said to Abraham, at a later time, "Look up at the heavens and count the stars--if indeed you can count them. . .So shall your offspring be." Genesis 15:5

So, Abraham couldn't even see every speck of dust or star in the sky that represented all his offspring, or descendants. Galatians 3 tells us that we as believers are sons of Abraham because of our faith. That means that perhaps his feet once trod on a speck of dust that represented ME! Or YOU! Better-sounding than a dust bunny, maybe on a long-ago evening, as Abraham gazed into a sky filled with shiny lights, he saw the very star representing ME! Or YOU!

Give yourself a minute to think about that! It's amazing, really.

We also learn in Romans 4 that Abraham's faith was credited to his "account" as righteousness. Though he did unrighteous things, his FAITH made him righteous in God's eyes. And, as believers and sons of Abraham, the same thing happens to us when we believe. We are so imperfect and do so many wrong things, but our FAITH is credited to us as righteousness just like Father Abraham! What a splendid work of Jesus! What He did was so complicated and has so many layers to it. But our part is simple. Just faith. We have nothing of our own to offer Him, but He gives us everything. WOW!

Of course, once we have that faith, we are responsible to live it out, amen? That's where it can become complicated for us. Our selfish nature wants to take over and puts up a good fight! But we are told that faith without works is dead. The works don't save us, but they are to be an evidence of our faith.

Is there something you have been feeling you should change? Do you feel a nudging from the Lord to do something you don't feel like doing or that you think is too hard? Is there a person who is difficult to love that you need to contact and encourage? Let's remember that our lives are really not about us. We were made to glorify the Lord! Let's be willing to be a Dust Bunny if necessary, even if we'd rather be a Star!

Less of me; more of You, Lord.

The Key of Self-Control

 By Laurie Ness

There's something God wants you (and me) to do.  I know that, because His Word says He's got something for every believer to do.  A goal to reach, a resolution to keep, a sin to conquer, a hardship to overcome . . . whatever it looks like in your life, it's always there, beckoning you.  Are you still going strong toward your goal, or have you fizzled out, or even lost hope?

Wherever you are in your journey, God is there with you, and He wants you to be/remain encouraged!  He wants you to stay the course and finish strong in the things He has impressed upon your heart to do.

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."  --Jer. 29:11

"Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up."  --Gal. 6:9

Whatever our goals are, there is something that we all need in order to reach them, but it's rarely talked about as something attainable:  self-control.  Unless our goals are to be everything God detests (and that wouldn't be true for anyone reading this, or . . . you wouldn't be reading it!), there will be roadblocks, temptations, or other difficulties that try to stop us.  Self-control is key to conquering these trials and continuing on the right path toward the finish line.

I'm thinking that there must not be anyone who exercises perfect self-control in every single area of her life, because then wouldn't there be a sinless person?  Yet self-control is clearly, according to His Word, something that God wants of us.  He even provides it as a fruit of the Spirit.  Most of us probably have areas where self-control comes easier than others.  The good news is that we can train ourselves, with the Lord's help, to build stronger "self-control muscles" in all areas of our lives!

The Lord offers us encouragement and instruction in His Word to get us started and keep us going!

Let's define our goals.  It's hard to go anywhere without a destination in mind and some sort of plan to get there!  We need to take some time to listen to what the Lord wants us to work on and decide on the best steps to accomplish it.  Writing it down makes it more concrete and gives us something to refer to when the going gets rough.

"For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish.’" --Luke 14:28-30

A plan is a good thing!

Let's fill our minds.  Inspirational quotes from "successful" people can be great encouragement, but where better to learn about self-control than from the Bible?  Let's read it, study it (join a Bible study?), meditate on it, write it on cards to place in strategic places around our homes, and . . . hardest of all, but achievable . . . memorize it!  The more we dwell on the truth of self-control, the more it may come naturally to us in time.

"How sweet are Your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth! I gain understanding from your precepts, therefore I hate every wrong path.  Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path." --Psalm 119:103-105

Let's rely on the Lord's strength.  He offers us the tools.  His Word;  access to Him anytime, anywhere, through prayer;  a way out when temptation tries to sway us away from our goals.  We always have a choice whether or not to utilize what He provides for us.

"So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature."  --Galatians 5:16

Let's take the focus off ourselves.  I remember the first line of a chorus we sang in church when I was a kid, "Let's forget about ourselves and magnify the Lord and worship Him."  That's all I remember of the song, but those few words have a huge meaning!  Our lives as believers are not meant to be about us.  Our lives are meant to be an act of worship to our Lord.  That means saying "No" when we don't feel like it, because we know HE wants to say no, or saying "Yes" to something He does want us to do, even if we're afraid or uncomfortable.  He rules!  We need to choose to get over ourselves.  Ouch!

"Then he said to them all:  'If anyone would come after Me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.  For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for Me will save it.  What good is it for a man to gain the whole world, and yet lose or forfeit his very self?'"  --Luke 9:23-25

"Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God--this is your spiritual act of worship."  --Romans 12:1

Let's find a buddy.  Accountability strengthens self-control.  We weren't meant to live our lives in solitude.  Let a trusted friend or family member in on your goals, and ask them to check in with you every so often.  Somehow, knowing that a buddy will be asking us about our progress helps keep us focused and on track.

"Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working."  --James 5:16

"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! . . . And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken."  Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, 12

Let's stand up and keep walking when we fall.  We all fall!  Repeatedly.  And we will continue to during our time on this earth.  But our falling isn't an excuse to wallow.  We need to pick ourselves up quickly, talk with the Lord (and anyone else affected) about our mistake, put it behind us, and move on!  Wallowing, lingering guilt, stagnancy--none of these are from the Lord!  If our goals are from Him, He wants us to reach them.  We can only strengthen self-control if we choose to learn from our mistakes instead of using them as an excuse to remain weak.

"Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart."  --Hebrews 12:1-3

Self-control is a difficult virtue, but vital for reaching our goals. It usually entails a sacrifice of some sort, but the sacrifice is always worth what is gained.  No matter how many times we may have failed in the past, the Lord does not want us to give up training ourselves to be self-controlled.  Do you have other hints or insights in developing self-control?  Consider helping out your sisters by commenting in the comments section below! :)

What We All Need

By Laurie Ness

The excitement of the holidays is gone.  No holiday hustle and bustle to distract us. We're left with what is truly in our hearts.

What's in your heart, dear one, as you pack away the Christmas decor for another year?  A spark?  A roaring fire? Or . . . cold, dark nothingness?

No matter what condition our hearts are in at the start of this new year, JOY is what we all need--either to get it or keep it!. And even those in the saddest or most worrisome circumstances can have joy!  Isn't it wonderful?  In fact, God wants us to have joy.  There's nothing we can do to deserve such joy, but any Christ-follower is capable of experiencing it by choosing the right frame of mind.  Here are a few facts to help us focus on joy:

Joy and happiness are not equal.  See, happiness is an emotion.  Joy is an attitude.  Our emotions are random and unreliable, while our attitudes are chosen and nurtured by us!  Joy and happiness may coincide at times, but they are not one and the same. "This is the day which the Lord has made; Let us rejoice and be glad in it." (Psalm 118:24)

Joy and gratitude go hand in hand.  We can't be thankful and joyless.  Gratitude breeds joy.  Constant thanksgiving leaves no room for bitterness or empty spaces in our hearts. “Praise be to the Lord, for he has heard my cry for mercy. The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and I am helped. My heart leaps for joy and I will give thanks to him in song.” (Psalm 28:6-7)

Joy lets go.  A joyful heart doesn't cling to its own wants, but lays everything (dreams, time, things, money, people, etc.) at Jesus' feet and let's Him decide what is best. "But may all who seek You rejoice and be glad in You; may all those who long for your saving help always say, 'The Lord is great!'" (Psalm 40:16)

Joy lives in the moment.  To worry about tomorrow is a joy-killer.  True joy trusts the future to the One who holds it. "So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself . . . "  (Matthew 6:34)

Joy thrives in obedience.  Living in obedience to the Lord isn't always easy but always builds up the joy factor! "Light shines on the righteous, and joy on the upright in heart.  Rejoice in the Lord, you who are righteous, and praise His holy name."  (Psalm 97:11-12)

Choose joy, my friend.  Even in these cold winter months, joy is always there to experience. :)

His Favorite Birthday Present

By Laurie Ness

Isaiah 11:1 There shall come forth a shoot from the stump of Jesse, and a branch from his roots shall bear fruit. 

He was a baby.  As helpless and dependent as every other baby born on this earth.  As beautiful and precious to His mama as every baby ought to be.


Matthew 1:23 “Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and they shall call his name Immanuel” (which means, God with us).

She was special in a way, but just as human as you and me.  She knew she was holding God's child, but did she understand what her grown boy would endure to save her?

Matthew 1:21 She will bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.

Do we understand what His suffering has saved us from?  Eternal separation from Him (death), shame, false guilt, darkness, foolishness, and spiritual bondage are just a few horrible things from which our Savior has delivered us.

Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

How, then, should we celebrate His birthday?  We don't know his actual birth date, but December 25th has been deemed His birthday party day.  Does it turn out to really be about Him, though?

Generally speaking, no.  It's not about Him anymore, if it ever really was.  As a whole, people have turned this time of year into a breeding ground of discontent, materialism, greed, and selfishness.  I don't need to spell out the ways these qualities are displayed.  We all see it.

Thankfully, there are those who choose to celebrate Jesus during this season.  Jesus, the Light of the World.  Jesus, the Perfect Lamb.  Jesus, Immanuel.  Jesus, our Savior.

Close your eyes, and think on that word, Savior, for a moment.  It's breathtaking.

1 John 4:14 We have seen and testify that the Father has sent the Son to be the Savior of the world.

Doesn't He, more than any of us, deserve to have His birthday celebration be about Him?  After all, though He was born in lowly human conditions, He was/is as much God as His Father was/is.  Jesus chose to give up His rights as God to come here for us!

There are all kinds of ways and opportunities to make this Christmas season about Him, about our love and adoration for Him.  There are needs all around us we can choose to meet in His name.  There's all kinds of giving we can do in place of getting, and ways to direct the next generation's eyes onto Jesus instead of themselves.  These are all good things.

Matthew 25:35-40:  For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me,  I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’  Then the righteous will answer him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you?  And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?’  And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’

I was thinking, though, and praying about what Jesus would want for a birthday present--I mean, the "bestest" thing He might want in the whole world from His followers:  To be truly followed by those who claim him, not just during the Christmas season, but every day of the year; to be cherished, adored, and obeyed by us, to the best of our ability, every single day; to see His followers meet the needs we are able to meet through Him all year long!

I don't know if I've got it right, as far as what His favorite birthday present from His people might be, but certainly we can't go wrong to give Him our whole selves each and every day!

Happy Birthday, Jesus!

Soon after I wrote the above, I saw this lovely video by Ann Voskamp and Liz Curtis Higgs, and just knew I needed to share it with you ladies.  It's a little over an hour long, but, if you have a quiet hour to set aside, wrap your cold hands around a mug of something warm and treat yourself to the wisdom and charm of these two precious ladies.  They're actually kind of advertising their new advent books, but the video is really a delight to watch, and they offer a lot of insight for free! ;)  Click here to view the video.

A Simpler Life

By Laurie Ness

So many activities.

So much stuff.

So many choices.

So much wasted time.

So much, so many, so much, so many . . . it's enough to make a girl's mind spin!  Out of control, perhaps!

Not to mention the ineffectiveness, confusion, stress, and disconnected families that often remain in clutter's wake.

Enough is enough!  Too much of anything is NOT a good thing.  But what can we do about it?  We have to keep up with the Joneses (whoever they are), right?  We have to make sure our kids participate in every activity imaginable, right?  We certainly need to let everyone on social media know our every movement and meal, right?  And we have to be involved with every available ministry, right?

No!  It's not right!  To be too busy, to have too much, to be involved in things we aren't called by the Lord to do . . . all of these are hindrances to living and ministering effectively. I understand this well because I've been there.  In fact, I find I am there again more often than I care to be!

"Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us,"  Hebrews 12:1

"But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal."  Matthew 6:20

"But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."  Matthew 6:33

We don't need to worry.  We don't need to hang on to things.  We don't need to do what we weren't called to do.  We don't need to waste time.

What DO we need to do?  What will help us simplify our lives?

1.  Practice gratitude.  The best way I can think of to experience contentment--which leads to living more simply-- is to choose to be grateful for what I have right now.  So many blessings are ours to count if we but choose to do so!  Keep a journal specifically to record what you're thankful for--it's great to read on days when it's harder to think of things!

2.  Pray.  Ask God for wisdom to know what to hold on to and courage/strength to let go of what He asks us to.

3.  Purge.  It's not easy, but it needs to be done.  There are the physical things we own that need to be gone through and decisions made about:  clothes, papers, toys, electronics, food, etc.  And then there are the more intangibles, like what activities to be involved in or skip, and ways to spend our "free time."

4.  Ask ourselves important questions about each item/activity to help us decide whether to keep it or pitch it:

• Do I need it?
• Does it help keep me close to the Lord?
• Does it further His Kingdom?
• Do I feel confident that He has called me to do this?
• Does it foster closeness and togetherness in my family?
• Does it serve a good purpose?

5.  Seek accountability.  It's so beneficial if we talk with a trusted friend about the changes we need to make in our lives, ask them to pray, and give them permission to ask us how we're doing from time to time.  God didn't design us to live our lives alone.  We need each other!

6.  Relax.  That means different things to different people, but we need to take time for rest and relaxation, not only physically, but also reminding ourselves that we are not responsible to be all things to all people.  This isn't an excuse to be lazy, but a release from "responsibilities" that were never meant to be ours.

Simplify! :)

Forget the Shaking Finger!

By Laurie Ness

"REPENT!"

What a bully of a word when used without love.  Do you picture an old-time preacher, dressed in black from head to toe, shaking his finger at the startled audience under a hot tent, veins bulging out of his face as he hollers his hellfire and brimstone accusations?  That's the image that invades my mind sometimes when I hear the word, "repent."

What does it mean really?  How did our Savior use it?  Is the word obsolete because there are some who abuse it?

Let's take a look!

Strong's defines the Greek verb, "metanoeo," as:
1.  to change one's mind, i.e. "to repent"
2.  to change one's mind for the better, heartily to amend with abhorrence of one's past sins.

Now, the sour-faced preachers were not lying when they preached the need for repentance!  Jesus Himself said, in Matthew 4:17, "Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is near."  Or, in other words, "Change your mind for the better!  Hate your sin and heartily amend your behavior, for the kingdom of heaven is near!"  It doesn't appear to be a suggestion, but a command.

Both Pastor Crabby Pants and Jesus used the same word, "repent," but their delivery of the same message was quite different.  Jesus spoke directly, but lovingly.  Pastor Crabby Pants was trying to scare people into repentance.

The afterlife of one who does not repent is a scary prospect, and perhaps some of those unkind preachers have been successful at persuading some terrified souls to make some changes.  I wonder, though, if those people have ever come to understand the love of Jesus.

I like the parables that Jesus tells in Luke 15.  Read the passage right now if you can.  You won't be disappointed. :)  A lost soul, who needs to repent, is compared to: a lost sheep whose owner leaves his other 99 sheep to find the one; a lost silver coin, whose owner sweeps her house until she finds it, though she has 9 more secure silver coins; and a son who seriously insults his father by asking for his inheritance, squanders it, is ready to crawl back to his father, but is met by his father running toward him.  Jesus says there is rejoicing in Heaven over one person who repents.

When I've heard those hellfire and brimstone preachers (mostly in the movies or on Little House on the Prairie), their message seems more like, "God thinks you're a jerk and can't wait to throw you in hell, but, if you REPENT!, you can save yourselves!"

This is so different from what Jesus portrayed.  He loves us!  His Father sent Him because His Father loves us!  Jesus seems to be rooting for us, but never forcing us, to choose Him-- abundant life!  He also wants us to show mercy toward other sinners who repent.

Luke 5:31-32
Jesus answered them, "It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance."
Luke 17:3
So watch yourselves. "If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him.
Luke 17:4
If he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times comes back to you and says, "I repent," forgive him.

Repentance shouldn't bring fear to our lives, but freedom!  Even long-time saints can have sin in their lives they need to repent of.  Have you strayed from the Lord in some area of your life?  There may be consequences involved, but Jesus isn't standing in the shadows, ready to condemn you.  What He did for you on the cross, the forgiveness you don't deserve but that He freely offers you, is similar to that father running toward his wayward son.  Jesus wants you to repent!  He wants you to turn from your sin and toward Him so you can experience His freedom.

"Repent!" I tell you.  Except I'm saying it quietly, with a smile and a hug, and I'm saying it to myself, too. :)

The Attainable Tame Tongue

By Laurie Ness

Sometimes my heart just sinks when I realize how I've spoken to someone I love.  And it's those I'm closest to, those two wonderful guys who are my heart and home, that it's easiest to let loose on. 

People are often surprised when I share this with them.  Maybe because I'm typically fairly mild-mannered?  Well, let me tell you, we quieter people become angry, too.  We are sinners like everyone else and have a tongue that needs controlling.  And sometimes we choose not to.

The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body.  It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.  All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles, and creatures of the sea are being tamed by man, but no man can tame the tongue.  It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.  James 3:6-8

Did that just say, "but no man can tame the tongue?"  Yep, that's what it says!

So, why try?

The note in my study Bible says that man can't do it, but it's a work of God.  And God so very often works in our lives through His Word.  The Bible has lots to say about us and our tongues.  It's clear that we are not off the hook in doing our part to control our mouths!

Psalm 34:13
Keep your tongue from evil, And your lips from speaking deceit.

Psalm 37:30
The mouth of the righteous speaks wisdom, And his tongue talks of justice.

Psalm 39:1
I said, "I will guard my ways, Lest I sin with my tongue; I will restrain my mouth with a muzzle, While the wicked are before me."

Proverbs 10:31
The mouth of the righteous brings forth wisdom, But the perverse tongue will be cut out.

James 1:26
If anyone among you thinks he is religious, and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his own heart, this one's religion is useless.

1 Peter 3:10
For " He who would love life
And see good days,
Let him refrain his tongue from evil,
And his lips from speaking deceit.

To name a few.

Anyway . . .

My beloved son is the unfortunate recipient of the majority of my uncontrolled words.  We spend lots of time together, he and I.  I home school him, which hubby and I are convinced is right for him at this time, but there are days where I feel like I absolutely am the most horrible example for him, ever!  The very thing I expect of him--speaking with respect, wisdom, and love--is such a struggle for me way too often!  We are two stubborn people trying to navigate our way through each day, sometimes Mom acting just as immaturely as Son.

I'm no expert, and all I have to offer any other struggling tongues is what I've learned along the way:

1.  Stop!  Engage the brain before speaking.  The only way to do that is to not immediately speak, no matter how "incredible" the words on the tip of your tongue, dying to make their way out, might be.  Just stop.  Now.  (James 1:19--a good memory verse.  It's short, but packed with pertinent wisdom and truth!)

2.  Pray.  God wants to help us control our tongues.  He wouldn't spend so much time talking about it in His Word if it wasn't important.  He's never unwilling to help.  We, however, might be unwilling to let go of whatever is in the way of receiving His help.

3.  Let it go.  Whatever it is.  Pride, usually.  It's not worth it.

4.  Take time to form your words.  It doesn't show weakness to need time to corral our tongues.  In fact, we look more foolish in the end when we just let it fly!

5.  Apologize.  We will all continue to mess up sometimes.  Whether it's an adult or a child we have sinned against with our tongues, we need to humble ourselves and take action to make things right.  It's vital!

I'm not sure when or how it became a "good" thing for ladies to "speak their minds" in any tone of voice that suits them in the moment.  It's probably been a gradual process over a number of years, as is most acceptance of sin as "cool."  I think we wrong each other (and our daughters, granddaughters, nieces, etc.) if we encourage each other to be outspoken about anything and everything.  It's one thing to speak courageously when God prompts us to do so.  It's a completely different matter to run our mouths without engaging our brains, our knowledge of God's Word, our gentle tone of voice.  It may give a woman or girl a sense of liberation or satisfaction to put someone in his/her place, but it is false liberation, false satisfaction.  It's self-centered behavior and it does not glorify our God.  True liberty comes from obeying Him!

Instead, let's encourage each other's efforts to speak to everyone in a God-pleasing way.  That, of course, does not mean we will always make everyone happy with our words.  There are times He asks us to confront another (and that happens especially often if we have children!), but we can choose to get our message across in a kind but firm manner.  There's never an excuse for name-calling or berating another person.  God is merciful to us and expects us to show mercy toward others.  Even when we don't feel like it.

That's pretty much what it comes down to:  not reacting with our feelings.  We ought to think and make wise choices instead of just immediately reacting with the first words that form on our tongue.  The more consistently we practice this, the more tame our tongues will become.  Thank You, Lord, for that hope and for being willing to help us!  :)